prophecy: the lady and the unlady
I am beginning to understand the sometimes vulgar imagery used by prophets in conveying the raw heart-speak of God, for I have just felt one such outpouring from God’s raw heart. It goes something like this:
You Christians have not pursued wisdom as a lady worth pursuing. Instead, you have treated her like a whore - you have stripped her, packaged her vulgarly with rags that leave nothing to the imagination, and you are selling her cheaply on the streets as something convenient to be had anytime anywhere for your greed.
You ought to instead pursue wisdom - clothe her, honor her, pursue her with awkward love and humility, pursue her with your very lives and lifetimes, not as something you can own or have, but as someone who chooses to be with you for a season. Therefore cherish her as an honored guest, desperately desire her to make her home in your life.
For God watches your hearts, and sees your arrogance and pride and greed.
The above imagery came unbidden to my soul the other day as Alexis and I were driving back from church. It didn’t come with exactly these words. It was a sense, a vision of sorts, an emotion that could not be quite captured succinctly. The raw sense was more powerful, the words ended up being “merely” shocking.
Here’s the thoughts that the above triggered in my mind afterward, and there’s a wordsmithed “tamer” version at the end:
As I read the prophets in the Old Testament, including the words in Proverbs, I find the imagery used by them to be shocking, striking, and disturbing at times. One imagery in particular that stands out is the contrast between the role of a woman given to various characters in wisdom literature. The familiar one is that of the “adulterous” woman in Proverbs, who ensnares and lures, and the admonition is to not go after her.
The one that may be unfamiliar is that of “wisdom” in Proverbs, who is also referred to as a woman, but this time a woman worth pursuing.
I find this to be remarkable - that what many allege to be a masculine God in a masculine Bible did not portray wisdom as a wise old man in the streets asking people to follow his teachings, but rather that God chose to portray wisdom as a lady to pursue. To those who get uncomfortable with thinking of God as a woman, I point out the many verses in Proverbs that have him being portrayed as exactly that - a lady worth pursuing.
If wisdom is a lady, then the “adulterous” woman could be called many things that are the opposite, which I’ll simply term the “unlady”.
If wisdom dresses like a lady, you can probably imagine what the “unlady” might look like.
This got me thinking - the image of the “unlady” is one that promises instant gratification, dressed in a way that leaves very little to the imagination, making it clear that the “unlady” is someone you can have, easily, cheaply, conveniently, anytime you want. The “unlady” gets treated not as a person but as a thing, a commodity to own.
As many men will attest, though, and as many women already know, the pursuit of the “unlady” image is one that does not fulfill. It gratifies our own desires for a moment, cheaply, for sure, and immediately too. But afterward it leaves a bitter taste and a sense of void longing.
And this is not even a deep spiritual truth - it is a recognized piece of human nature, a piece of God written on hearts everywhere, finding its way then into the stories we tell of the passionate pursuit of true love versus cheap commercialized passion-for-a-price. See, for example, the powerful movie “Pretty Woman”. Q.E.D.
So, the early version of this post had an edited version of the imagery I first receivd in my heart, an imagery of what God felt in his heart about how he saw things. I couldn’t help wordsmithing it, I was afraid - it felt safer for me to say something like this instead:
We Christians today are not pursuing wisdom as a lady worth pursuing. It would be quite bad enough if we simply ignored her, but what we are doing to her is far worse: we are instead treating her like an unlady - we have stripped her of her fascinating mystery, then packaged her vulgarly with cheap imitations of pseudo-parables in a manner that leaves little to the imagination, and are selling her as a cheap, easy, convenient thing to be had anytime anywhere, devoid of personality, commercialized and exploited as a commodity we market for our own greed.
We ought to be ashamed of our perversion of wisdom. We ought to clothe her, honor her, and pursue her with unabashed love and humility, pursue her with our very lives, for our lifetimes, not as someone we can own or have, but someone who has the freedom to not be with us anytime she chooses to, and therefore someone whom we value highly as a cherished guest who blesses us with her presence and whom we want desperately to stay with us.
For God watches our hearts, and he knows our arrogance and pride and greed.
But the more I think about it, the more I’m convinced this is why the message is so shocking - this is really how God feels in his heart about things. This is why the message of the prophets was so shocking - the sense of recoil and deep hurt one feels when one hears those rough words that are so personal, words like “you have stripped her” convey the deep sense of injustice, anguish, and cheapened loss that capture the brokenness God himself feels about what we have done with His wisdom and truth.
May 16th, 2006 at 10:08 am
I often think of the trashy unlady as some “whorish” looking tramp that though you know is dirty and disgusting you can’t help but be somewhat drawn to her, as the rebel in all of us shouts approval … yet, the lady of wisdom to me is not flashy, is simple but has a beauty that often leaves you puzzled and enamored. The trashy lady is brashly calling for me, yet the lady of wisdom just shyly hints at a smile and momentarily connects eyes with me before she lowers her head and stares at the ground. The trashy lady is a sure thing for a wild night, but you can’t keep her amused and she always leaves you wanting more, needing more and feeling less. The lady of wisdom is a flirt and leaves you wanting more, needing more but feeling like a knight in hot pursuit of a fair maiden. Oh the lure of the ladies …
May 16th, 2006 at 12:01 pm
Okay John… you encouraged me to be real and post the unedited and shocking version if I really felt this came from God, and I did…
… but I posted the wordsmithed version too
I am still afraid!
May 16th, 2006 at 12:17 pm
This provoked me: “pursue her with awkward love and humility”. I need to acknowledge I’m foolish and embarrassed, but pursue her anyway. And also: “not as something you can own or have, but as someone who chooses to be with you for a season”. Yes! I’m afraid that I’ll lose any wisdom God has given me, or that I don’t have her with me now, to begin with. Fear of the Lord (and His sovereign will to let me be stupid/proud/blind and let me stumble) is the beginning of inviting her to stay with me? But then also to remember that He hasn’t given me a spirit of fear/timidity, but of power, love, and a sound mind. So can I approach her boldly, even in my awkwardness?
May 16th, 2006 at 1:23 pm
Rachel, your wonderment reminds me of a scene from a Jesus-movie, I forget which one but the scene was captivating. It wasn’t a major scene, just a little vignette, maybe less than five seconds long: it shows a crowd around Jesus, and some official-looking men dragging away a burly man who is staring at Jesus. It looks like he has just met Jesus or bumped into him or something like that and is being dragged out of the way.
His expression was so moving - it changed from anger at the men who were dragging him away, to glancing at Jesus, to a sense of wonderment, and a half-smile, then an unbelieving grin, as if to say, “really? Lord? you? here? me? my King? really? wow?!”
I think that scene captures your sense of “can I approach her boldly, even in my awkwardness?”
I think, yes, it is with that sense of wonderment and “I-can’t-believe-this-is-happening” awkwardness that we live life closely with Jesus
I think this is why Jesus loved children - they didn’t have the layers of sophistication that we adults put on human relationships, they were simply delighted and awed to be with Jesus 
May 16th, 2006 at 9:48 pm
i just find it fascinating that the whole idea of “pursuit” was couched not in hunting terms, or career goals, but in terms of women. I DO get that. There isn’t a man on the planet who does not understand what it means to pursue a woman (even though some, to be sure, are klutzes at it).
My big question is always, “HOW CAN YOU TEACH AN ENGINEER TO LOVE?” You know, driven types, introverted, protectionistic, etc. Prople for whom “loving” is a risk. How can you teach them to love another person?
Learn that first, then loving God has an identifiable context. I hope.
But WISDOM!
That’s another story. Only those who place themselves in desicive situations or positions really need wisdom. The rest of us just go along with the status quo.
Risk much, Hari,
Gary